Jason Collins' Announcement Should Give Us Perspective...

In what may be construed as a historical landmark, an NBA player has announced he is gay. In an interview with Sports Illustrated, Jason Collins shared his sexual preference with the world and became the first active North American professional athlete to do so.

Collins showed the courage to do what no active homosexual athlete has done before him.

Some might disagree with his announcement and feel as though perhaps he should have kept his lifestyle private. That’s one way to go about it, but then again few truly ever complain when heterosexual individuals put themselves out there by embracing a misogynistic culture and teaching it to our youth (exhibit A: watch just about any rap video).

For several straight men and women, homosexuality is a touchy subject. It makes certain people uncomfortable. However, this topic is important to me as a black man and more importantly as a father.

Prior to the contest between the Chicago Bulls and Brooklyn Nets on April 29, Kenny Smith stated beore a national audience what I had been advocating to many. He shared a story in which the great Bill Russell told him that as an African-American, the one thing our people have always wanted is inclusion.

If we take that a step further, black people have been hoping and expecting to be tolerated, respected and included into society just like any other individual regardless of color or creed.

I can recall when I was a mere four-year old playing in my backyard and some kids from the neighborhood who felt I didn’t belong started calling me a nigger and telling me to vacate the area.

While some might automatically think I’m referring to an event that occurred in the 1960s, this occurred around 1985.

Some individuals once upon a time even used Bible scriptures to outline the rationale behind racial inequality. Heck, God surely would have approved of slavery right?

My larger point is simple: whether I agree or not with the lifestyle of homosexuals is completely irrelevant. What does matter though is for me to treat them like equals.

I know firsthand what it feels like to be an outsider and believe it or not, the same can be said of gay people.

Expecting everyone to accept this message and value it for what it is would be incredibly shortsighted of me. Some will offer different opinions based on their beliefs and what have you and that’s perfectly fine.

But the first step to making our society and on a bigger scale our world more tolerant of others is recognizing differences do exist.

Jason Collins put the first domino in motion today and we might just be better off for it in the long run.

"I Hate Being Single..."

For some women, being single is cause for sadness and misery. Because several enjoy the perks that come along with being in a relationship, the absence of it can cause depression in some cases.


And that’s when the infamous phrase gets dropped: “I hate being single”.

I’ve received several inquiries in the past few months from women that wondered whether something was wrong with them. In most cases, they had been in long lasting relationships prior and were now finding the coping process of being alone quite vexing.

Whether it’s the lack of warmth in the bedroom, the inability to garner cuddles or simply the disdain for entertaining emotionless sexual relations, the single life just isn’t for everybody.

Mind you, things got dicey when I dug deeper beneath the surface in search of comprehending the realities that some of these women were dealing with. Boy was I in for a shock.

One of them was involved in a semi-relationship with a man she saw once a week. In her eyes, because he was a weekly subscription of sorts, that gave her the latitude to sleep with other men despite the fact that her “main guy” was under the impression they were in a monogamous union. Seems like someone should portray her if ever there’s a sequel to Think Like a Man.

According to her, this gentleman was providing her with everything she desired except his daily presence because he lived out of town. That gave her a license to not only get some, but complain about being single.

Odd.

The next one that solicited my advice had a man within her sights. It seemed as though he was quite the catch based on her description of him. He was respectful, docile and displayed a fair amount of intelligence. They had never been on a date or what not, but the potential was certainly there.

There was however one small problem: she was intimidated by him.

She had never dealt with a man like him before and that scared her. Her admission only came at the end of a lengthy conversation and it was clear that the whole thing was nerve-racking for her. When faced with opportunities for dates with the dude, she made up excuses out of fear. She was afraid that his standards might exceed what she brought to the table.

Eventually, the man moved on. After making multiple efforts with the hope of enjoying her company, he more than likely felt as though she wasn’t interested in him.

It’s an interesting dynamic in this respect: the lady was hoping to obtain some type of comfort and reassurance from a man with no clue that she needed it. In the same breath, this hombre needed for his level of interest to feel reciprocated but it wasn’t.

Two people looking for exactly the same thing from one another but incapable of realizing it.

In a very odd way, sometimes that’s what being single is about as evidenced by both previous illustrations.

It can in fact be a less than ideal scenario whereby an individual has no one to love or share their life with. But there’s also the other side of the coin. Sometimes women have that one guy they know could be their potential mate; however they do not allow things to organically develop in such a manner.

Whether it’s the fear of rejection or the inability to completely trust that specific individual, they deal with a multitude of roadblocks when faced with a chance at love.

Ah but jumping into something with someone is difficult. Hollering “I hate being single” is far easier.

Focusing on all these issues helps keeping one from being tied down, and rationalizing their merits can be dangerous given that it legitimizes inactivity.

Perhaps the operative term many should be using is “I hate my choices…”

Questions or comments? Feel free to leave them in the comments section or you can contact me by email at Shyne@Sbgorillas.com.

Men Feel The Other Side Too

For women that have spent an inordinate amount time going on dates with so called losers, cheapskates, cheaters, liars and scumbags; meeting a respectable fellow can in fact become a huge and yet incredibly pleasant surprise.

A man that opens doors, says please, asks for the woman’s input and makes nice gestures that leave one with the impression that his mother occupied a huge place in his life can make a woman happy and yet weak at the same time after a few dates.

Forget potential, this man might just be what she is looking for.

He doesn’t have an issue with picking up the check and can actually hold a decent conversation that doesn’t revolve around sex. In some circles, women refer to this dude as the jackpot.

This man creates problems though.

Because he is in the eyes of the woman that’s dating him so charming, charismatic, smooth and nice, he occasionally creates a bit of insecurity for the woman involved.

True story.

She starts subtly trying to see who he’s sending out text messages to, checks out who he messages on Twitter, who comments on his photos or updates on Facebook and what type of bond he has with these people and the like. Eventually a little hint of jealousy takes over as she starts to question his actions and whereabouts regardless of the fact that they aren’t actually involved in an exclusive relationship.

This, ladies and gentlemen, often earns the label of crazy from the male species. Indeed, men usually drop the ever popular man bitches be trippin’ in these types of circumstances.

But in reality, the truth is a little more complicated than that.

Men know it, but aren’t always willing to acknowledge it.

See, men too go through these circumstances on occasion; and it perplexes them just as much as it does women.

Because the male gender spends a lot of time courting the same type of women they’ve been accustomed to for most of their lives, should it find a mate that’s much more exceptional than the others, well we want to keep her to ourselves.

A dude might begin to ponder about her beauty, smarts, sense of humor and common interests as well as her hobbies or knowledge that he might learn from her, which in turn make her amazing.

All of a sudden, men betray their typical behaviors and try to lock the woman down because she just seems to be good to be true. As this goes on though, the crazy characteristics occasionally emerge from dudes as well.

They want to know who is calling, who is sending out text messages, why she’s taking so long to reply and why she can’t make anymore free time for you despite spending a vast majority of it with you already.

The insecurity pops up because we feel threatened…

Just like women do.

But of course, no man would willingly admit to this, because it’s perceived to be a sign of weakness. But in fact, those that go on dates and finally find someone worth their attention can indeed feel weak. This incredible person will surely register on someone else’s radar, hence ensuring that we are their only viable candidate is the surest way to go, or so we might think.

Jealousy and insecurity be damned, it’s about protecting our assets and interests.

Men and women share this trait, but it seems that many are unaware of it. Both sexes can in fact get lonely, and should they find someone that could potentially change that feeling, they may in fact unknowingly sabotage their chances with them by essentially trying too hard to be with that someone.

These are just some of the intricacies of dating that one must be aware of when involved in the chase. Perception isn’t always reality; sometimes we just don’t realize how much we mean to people…

And perhaps that’s the bigger problem.

Exiting the Dating Game...

Dating is a cutthroat sport.

Seriously.

Peoples feelings often get hurt and at times lines get crossed as individuals put their needs before those of others and it leads to complicated situations like a dude dating two women that are friends or a woman dating a group of guys that play on the same basketball team. To some, this might sound completely ludicrous, whereas to others it may just be par for the course.

But at some point in time, every individual reaches somewhat of a breaking point: the dating game leaves them completely broken.

This isn’t to say that their emotions are damaged beyond repair, but rather that the exercise of repeatedly meeting new people and seeing how the situation unfolds can lead a person towards thinking that there just isn’t any hope left for a decent mate.

True story.

Some people are flat out crazy, others are seemingly ignorant, another portion might want you to marry them midway through the first date, some might present the aptitude for domestic violence while others might be dangerously jealous and so the list goes on.

But then, there’s the rational segment of society that we encounter in the game of dating that have different agendas and/or different needs depending on the moment we meet them.

Indeed, you might encounter a person on the first of the month and enjoy their company and progressively get to know them only to realize two weeks later that what they stated they initially wanted is no longer the case. What was supposed to be a “trial period” to get to know one another might easily become a situation where the person tells you they are looking for something that is going to last forever and the last two weeks are hardly indicative of anything resembling that.

That’s just the nature of dating.

One person might be developing a heightened sense of interest while the other one could be losing whatever little investment they initially had.

And for some, the constant repetition of this can create a plethora of reactions that lead us to an entirely different path.

For instance, the woman you’ve been courting for the past few days/weeks, you might start to sense the exact moment her interest level drops or rationalize its development despite the fact she never actually lost interest.

Or another example of the effects of the dating game occurred two weeks ago on How I Met Your Mother, when certified super player Barney Stinson essentially gave up on chasing his type of women and instead started from scratch with a full figured woman with the actual intent of getting to know her and understanding what it takes to actually be with someone.

Doesn’t matter who you are, at some point the Game itself will make you question yourself as well as those around you.

Can you continue to head down the path you’ve repeatedly chosen and failed with, or is it time to try something new?

Sometimes, something new might just be looking someone into their eyes and seeing their soul for the very first time as opposed to seeing their body.

Nonetheless, exiting the dating game can do wonders for a person; as they learn things about people they never anticipated finding out.

As a society, especially in the western civilization, we’ve grown accustomed to having and wanting more. But sometimes putting everything else on pause and focusing on the one good thing or one good person can open up an entirely different world right before our eyes.

If that happens to you, maybe you just found the right person to keep you out of the game for good.

Or maybe you just found the one that will keep you in it forever…

Questions or comments? Feel free to leave them in the comments section or you can contact me by email at Shyne@SBGorillas.com.

Updating My Relationship Status.....Kinda

The internet combined with social media has changed the way we as a society operate as a whole. No longer is it enough to be engaged into a relationship with someone, it has to now be announced to the world.

Those that know me are aware that despite the public forum where I discuss a variety of topics, I’m actually a fairly private person. Nonetheless, I was curious about using the medium for the sake of seeing what the reactions would be if I made an announcement with respect to my relationship status.

Before even engaging into this little exercise, I hypothesized that there might be a little fallout. Indeed, for whatever reason, people tend to think at times that they are owed something, regardless of the nature of your interactions with them.

In this instance, after updating my status, a person that I hadn’t seen in over three years messaged me to give me her two cents (text message published with her permission), and it wasn’t pretty.

In a roundabout way, social media coupled with texting has made people more accessible, and consequently, our “bonds” with others that much more seemingly intimate.

 It’s far more easier to think that you have a place in someone’s life when you get to follow their life story through their Twitter or Facebook updates as well as the photos they put up that details their every move. Thus, every change in one’s life that directly or indirectly affects a person of interest or person that’s looking at you from afar immediately results in a feeling of betrayal.

Why?

Because those that follow your every move over the internet feel as though they are part of your every day life even if they aren’t. It’s wildly amusing on some level to think about really.

A person can just go about living their life and broadcasting it in such a manner for all to see, but the moment that he or she does something that fails to take into account the interest of some of the followers, it’s as if they committed adultery.

The rise of the internet age has increased the proximity between people for better or worse.

The ability to connect with people from all across the globe is wonderful, but it does come with a price. Plastering your life all over your social media pages is obviously your choice, but it does come with consequnce; we are now in an odd way the prey of all of those that want to latch on to whatever it is that they can, and that means that in some small way, we entertain relationships with everyone.

Everyone.

That’s a scary thought.

Welcome to the world of today.

The Easy Girl

The title might sound a little offensive to some and if such is the case, well you might just have to get over it. It’s not that I don’t care, but rather that it hammers the point quite well.

A few days ago, I was entertaining a conversation with a couple of friends and we touched on multiple topics such as road trips, infidelity amongst men, raising children and being a single parent to name a few. Eventually, we landed on the subject of the Easy Girl.

With enough life experience and age, you eventually learn to stay away from that particular person or how to manage the dynamic when dealing with her.

The group of men that were privy to this conversation collectively agreed that in their younger days, such a woman was a person of interest because of all the needs she could potentially fulfill despite the lack of work involved to gain her attention, trust and affection.

The male species has figured out that in order to obtain the privilege of being with a woman – whether that’s a date, relationship or sexual encounter – some efforts may need to be exhausted. Women have multiple options as far as men are concerned – there’s a reason they let women into clubs far easier than they do men – whereas men don’t always have the possibility of parking their car in the garage that pleases them.

However, if the Easy Girl comes along, well then she becomes quite the Christmas gift for a young man.

Typically, this woman offers up little resistance and allows men to penetrate her emotional barriers without putting up too much of a fight. Most women know to keep their shields up until the person chasing them has earned the right to see past it; but our easy one opens herself up rapidly and puts her trust into the hands of this new guy that she barely knows.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of horrors stories that ensue from these situations, but for the most part, things are rather tame. She acquiesces to requests of unprotected sex, multiple people in attendance during coitus and a multitude of other ones.

The “problem” with the Easy Girl, as most men eventually find out, is that she is, well, easy.

Bet you didn’t see that one coming.

Men typically have large egos when it comes to women, and tend to think that their seduction game is the best in the business. Consequently, it’s inconceivable for them to think that she could potentially find happiness elsewhere. And in fact, it’s the complete opposite.

The lady in question usually opens up rather quickly, thus if the primary male that’s holding her attention starts to neglect her or simply keep her at bay, it might take a little time, but she will quickly find someone else to give her some attention. And once she does, she will be quick to complete any request he might have.

At times, the biggest shock for people is the realization that other people are exactly what we think they are.

A scientist is an individual that relies heavily on facts, data and empirical evidence if you will; and for whatever reason, some might be surprised to learn that some scientists are completely opposed to the idea of religion or fate. This is quite obvious, a person that requires proof in their every day life might object to the notion of God given that it’s impossible to prove his existence.

Drawing from that previous example, why do men then magically think that the Easy Girl will stop being easy? It’s the exact same principle.

You’ve all been warned…  

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Scattered Thoughts: The Road Trip Edition

Coming to you live from an undisclosed location, where entertainment and people acting a fool happens, it’s the road trip edition of my Scattered Thoughts. Seriously, for whatever reason, people not only have an easier time behaving badly away from home, but people are far more tolerant of outsiders than they are of their own local peeps.

With that said, let’s get it crackin’…

Boogie Nights

So while on this ever-infamous road trip, my squad and I hit up this spot where the music was awesome and the house was packed. Mind you, unbeknownst to us all, there were some male dancers in the house. Let me make it clear, not male strippers, but rather dancers.

In case you’re wondering, the difference is dancers keep their pants on.

With that said, as disgusted as we all were about the fact that there were dudes showing off their torsos on stage, the night took a different twist when they brought women on stage and decided to get freaky.

Really freaky.

The three dudes put ice cream on their chests and had women lick it off and then kissed them. In addition, they jumped down to the dance floor, grabbed some women and kissed them up as well. Making matters infinitely more entertaining, they groped the women on stage, pressed up on them and had them lying on their backs while their skirts rolled up their legs and exposed, well you know, their stuff.

These dudes couldn’t dance for a lick, but boy did they give us a good laugh as they exposed most of the women in attendance as being extremely easy.

They were all ready to get down and dirty on stage and only stopped because well the dudes stopped themselves. I’m talking about five to 10 women here; with the rest of them begging to get picked for a chance to press up on the dancers.

Being the mischievous person that I am, I quickly took snapshots of the debauchery but by night’s end it was brought to my attention that the dudes were actually from Montreal. Consequently, I had to stash away the “evidence” because of the hometown code: thou shall not snitch on a dude from home. Or three (fun fact: one of them looked exactly like Kendrick Perkins).

A little fun nugget though: for all of their bravado on stage, these dancers stripped a better game than they actually played. Indeed, I know for a fact -- don’t ask me how I know this, I just do -- that they didn’t get any action on this said night.

Perhaps that’s exactly what they wanted though…

Road Superstars

The weird thing about hitting up a spot on the road is that for whatever reason people spot outsiders extremely quickly. Seriously, the moment we made it into the joint, all the men in attendance gave us the “look at them out of town boys” look. We copped a few drinks, recited a few songs and got busy on the dance floor and then just like that we had earned their respect.

We were all treated to respect head nods, daps, fist bumps and raised glasses as a sign that they acknowledged us and weren’t trying to hate. I believe this is the moment they decided they would allow us to hang with their local chicks if we wanted; a moment that never truly came.

But it was fun.

Heck, by night’s end, we were outside the establishment performing Juicy J’s Bands A Make Her Dance with these two dudes breaking out in what I would generously qualify as a freestyle about what they wanted to do to the women passing by. And well, let’s just say they didn’t have the purest of intentions if you catch my drift.

The Single Life

Far be it for to me to suggest that every woman feels as such, but most of the ones that I know seem to despise the idea of being single. The idea of waking up alone, not having someone to regularly hug or cuddle seems to be problematic for them and thus they want to have someone in their lives to fulfill those needs. Mind you, the guy that adheres to such requests isn’t exactly the dude that’s just a casual fling; this is more of a series of events that must be executed with people with whom a bond has been formed and feelings are present.

And yet, because some people just have the ultimate need to get any type of affection possible, they attempt to get men who aren’t all that invested to do these things and it eventually backfires.

It’s a tricky thing because men who do not want to get invested will try to stay away from anything that could potentially look like a form of investment or settling down with one particular person. Indeed, the male species has slowly but surely realized that allowing certain actions or patterns of behavior from the women they are seeing is an open invitation for them to think the relationship is more serious than what it is.

As a rule thumb, the advice I give my male friends is to look at whatever rapport they have with a woman and understand that it will project to be as such give or take a few details for the remainder of their lives.

Why take this approach?

It’s easy to get yourself caught up in emotions and feelings with the absolutely worst person possible if you don’t look at how compatible you are. For instance, a person that despises or is simply incapable of providing any reassurance whatsoever might in fact not be the perfect mate for an incredibly insecure person. The personality traits might cause these two individuals to simply consistently have friction towards one another.

Thus, sometimes it’s better to be single and have peace of mind as opposed to being involved and miserable.

Just some food for thought.

Joe Budden: A Loose Quarter

I have multiple pleasures in life, and listening to Joe Budden’s music is one of my favorite ones. His production occasionally leaves much to be desired, but his level of introspection on his tracks combined with his gift for storytelling and fondness for being open to his audience make him one of the best lyricists in the game despite the lack of acclaim. All these facts make what I’m about to say infinitely more hurtful: Joe is the real life version of Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother.

A Loose Quarter paints the picture of a man that has overcome his struggles with drugs, depression, record labels, his father and his former lover to finally reach the happy place he needed and wanted for himself.

A lot of times, when people finally turn the corner and embrace their lives to be the best person they can be, it can be attributed to their love interest. Indeed, love can make you do funny things, like wanting to be the best possible human being, and that’s exactly where Joe is at on this mixtape.

Jump Off Joe announces to the world that his new love Kaylin has not only captured his heart, but made it completely whole again as she saved his life in his words. He sees her appearance into his life not only as a message from God, but as fate.

Thus, when Joey raps about his conversation with his mother on Momma Said about various issues that are dear to him, he quickly goes on to mention how his mother is somewhat concerned about his relationship with Kaylin given her young age; but he quickly vouches for his lady friend and makes it clear that she is here to stay.

In addition, he pops off on his former love Tahiry (first rapped about their break up on Downfall) on Off 2 the Races by explaining that she left him depressed and suicidal but that he’s now in a much better and happier place thanks to the new woman in his life. As much as he wants to remain cordial and possibly have a friendly relationship with his ex, it seems that it’s not possible given her lingering feelings for the Jersey rapper. Make no mistake though, Budden makes it clear that his intentions with his old flame are purely platonic and that his new girl understands this and is perfectly fine with it.

Lastly, on More of Me, Joe Budden explains how he and Kaylin met and how their relationship grew to the point where it is today; the way she made him feel as well as the way she makes him feel today. It’s the ever-odd ghetto love story if you will and Joe gives it his twist as he explains how his life was slowly decomposing into pieces before Kay came into the fold to rescue him.

The mixtape has some other solid joints as well but the ones mentioned above paint the picture of a calmer, more mature and more relaxed rapper that seems keen on enjoying his life.

But I can’t help but shake the feeling that his multiple relationships over the past few years have rendered him a slave of love, just waiting after every break up to be rescued by the woman that will take up the new spot and make him feel whole for the duration of their relationship. That in itself is what is reminiscent of Ted Mosby; an apparent inability to accept reality and instead constantly be caught dreaming about the woman that will come to sweep him off his feet.

The irony of course is that Ted Mosy himself annoys me, but Jump Off Joey’s Mosby-like dilemma entertains me.

Go figure.

ShynePhone Rotation

Juicy J – Bands A Make her Dance

Rick Ross ft. Drake – Us (Remix)

T.I. – Clique

Crooked I – The Other Side (Freestyle)

Shawty Lo – Dey Know

50 Cent ft. Too Short – First Date

Kendrick Lamar – Poetic Justice

Juelz Santana ft. Chris Brown – Back to the Crib

Rampin Shop – Vybz Kartel ft Spice

Movado – Neva Believe You

Brandy ft. Chris Brown – Put It Down

Miguel – Adorn

Rick Ross ft. Drake & Wale – Diced Pineapples

Meek Mill – Lean Wit It

French Montana ft. Rick Ross, Drake & Lil Wayne – Pop That

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Things That Keep Men Single...

A few weeks ago, a lady reached out to me and presented her situation and wanted my take. Essentially, she was seeing someone and had feelings for him but had no idea whether they were a couple or not. She mentioned to me that she was happy when by his side but that as of late he had pulled back and was extremely cold with her. She wanted to know: what gives?

The first point I made was that they weren’t in a committed relationship because if they were she would be aware as opposed to clueless about it all.

And secondly, well he had no true romantic interest in her. She thought I was completely wrong and that she would soon be vindicated. I made it clear to her: he’s just not that into you. And it may have taken a while, but he proved it to be true.

This might be difficult for certain women to come to grips with, but a man doesn’t necessarily want to be in a relationship with you just because he gets along with you. At times, that comfort and warmth can be mistaken for love or an emotional investment by either party, which is why it’s important to communicate to ensure such does not occur.

Believe it or not, smart men with life experience -- mid-20s might still be too young, but late 20s is where this starts to manifest itself -- can usually get an idea of whether they can potentially see themselves with a specific woman after a few conversations with her. And to be perfectly honest, this can be quite misleading for women.

Indeed, sometimes the qualities or aspects of a woman that attracts us men might be the exact reason we could never see ourselves with her. Confusing huh?

Allow me to clarify.

Certain traits can be wildly appealing for a jump off, but not a future wifey. For instance, a truly sexually liberated woman might take a man to a swingers club or something of the sort and leave him completely flabbergasted and yet intrigued. Mind you, after seeing her in such a setting with other people, the thought of having her as his woman might be somewhat unappealing.

I call it the Stripper Effect.

Every man has at some point in his life fantasized about being with a stripper. But the ones that actually succeeded in this endeavor -- that were not pimps -- were eventually dumped by these women or had to get out of the situation because the thought of establishing something serious with this person was somewhat off-putting because it involved sharing her with strip club customers and the like. In this said scenario, the dude might enjoy her company as well as the lifestyle to some extent, but ultimately the barrier of her exposing herself to others might just be too tough to overcome (doesn’t apply to every man obviously).

This previously cited example might seem a little too obvious, and some women might feel that it’s a little far fetched; but truth is it’s dead on. Men eventually come to understand what they like, dislike and what they can tolerate; and thus eventually develop a good grasp of whom they do not want to be with long-term.

Should they feel that the personality of a lady might alienate them, they might spend some time with her and enjoy her company as a person of interest, but never as the one they commit to.

It takes the male species a while, but after a few failed relationships, we evolve to understand why our previous love interests bombed. Certain character traits just aren’t in the cards for us, and that can often keep us at bay because we hate the idea of ending up with someone that doesn’t completely make us happy in every way possible.

A man typically views relationships as the outright thievery of his freedom, and that’s something that he will only agree to if the woman’s personality/character is compatible with his and leads to his happiness.

Otherwise, he’ll just be the guy that could be your man, but isn’t.

Questions or comments? Feel free to reach out by email at Shyne@SBGorillas.com