With that said though, not enough people abide by a code of ethics on the blue site. Although it is a bit touchy of a subject, your cyberspace interactions should somewhat mimic how you conduct yourself in real life. In order to help with this issue, I bring to you the Facebook Code of Conduct.
Article I: Friend Requests
Avoid sending out friend requests to people that you do not know. Generally, two reactions come to mind when that happens:
1. This person might be desperate to add friends.
2. This person saw a pretty face and is hoping to get laid.
Let me be clear though: this line of thinking occurs when someone receives a request from someone that is completely unfamiliar to them. If you have had some interactions with this said person on another site or in real life, then feel free too operate as you normally would.
Article II: Facebook Chat
When individuals go on Facebook, it’s usually because they might be a bit bored and have some time to kill. Consequently, they might be doing other things at the same time like watching a game, movie or reading something on the internet; so you have to expect a person’s attention span to fluctuate. Therefore, when chatting with someone on Facebook, you might want to pipe the f____ down if that person does not reply to you within one minute of you messaging them.
Article III: Wall Posting
It’s perfectly fine to post messages on people’s walls when the information could be fun, intriguing or what not. But you ¬cannot post things of a deep personal nature on there. What is considered as personal? Here’s the list:
-Illnesses (STDs, cancer, terminal illness, etc…)
-Relationship status update
-Infidelity (even if you got cheated on, you can’t post that on someone’s wall: you look just as bad for calling the person out; people will assume that you were cheated on because you lacked something)
-Shady events that transpired recently
However, if you decide to post something of that nature on your wall or the wall of one of your friends, then it’s fair game and everybody is allowed to comment on it.
Article IV: Theft
Do not steal great punch lines from other people’s walls and then post them up as yours. Always make sure to give the other person credit for it. If not, that’s grounds for them to block you.
Article V: Relationships
You should never attempt to engage a person that is in a relationship (relationship status: married, engaged to, is in a relationship with) with one of your Facebook friends (unless you know both of them). It sends out a bad message. For instance, I have a friend on Facebook that I met through Twitter and we talk daily. However, I would never think of trying to speak to his wife through FB because he might get the impression that I’m hitting on his wife. You might not think that sending their better a half a message is problematic; but trust me, it can become a huge issue. So just refrain from making such a move.
Article VI: Inbox Messages
If someone sends you an inbox message, you cannot share it with the masses. That’s just not right. You have an obligation to maintain that person’s privacy. It’s a matter of mutual respect. Mind you, there are certain topics that are just cause for having your private business aired out on a public forum:
-Sending racist messages
-Sending several messages requesting a date after already having been rejected
-Sending messages asking for a conversion of religion
-Requests of oral sex from a stranger/acquaintance
-Numerous “break up” messages of this sort: “please take me back”, “why won’t you give me another chance” and “I knew you were screwing him/her”
-Stalker type messages
Imagine this scenario: I’m walking down the street and I see a friend (of the opposite sex) across the street that I haven’t seen in a long time. I run over to catch her attention and I poke her. The normal reaction should be for her to slap me or swear at me. Why is this acceptable on Facebook then? I don’t know. Forget about poking people, it’s just weird.
Article VIII: High School Friends
People on Facebook have this odd fascination of looking up old classmates that they haven’t seen in the past 10-15 years just to have them as one of their friends with whom they occasionally interact with. Here’s the funny thing: you practically never talk with these people. You want to know why? Because in general you people do not share the same interests. If you did, you would have remained in touch and would not have needed the website to reconnect. So don’t bother with the charade. Quit looking up people that you used to be friends with back in high school. Just so you know, it’s part of the reason that I don’t use my real name on the site.
Article IX: Pimp Game
A lot of guys use the big blue and white F site as a means to hook up with other people. That’s perfectly fine as long as you do not screw up. If you are a Facebook pimp/pimstress, make sure the people you plan on dealing with know this. If not, one person might develop some sort of attachment to you and start checking up on all the comments and messages that you post on other people’s pages. The last thing you want is for the dude/chick that you’re dealing with to start asking your friends or acquaintances if they’re sleeping with you. Which brings me to my next point….
Article X: Channel your inner Tiger
Regardless of what your opinions are of infidelity, it happens. It’s part of life and it sucks. Keep in mind though, if the cheated party finds out, things tend to get real messy. Hence, it’s of utmost importance that you limit the damages of your actions. What does this mean in practical terms? Don’t add the person you’re sleeping around with to your list of Facebook friends. Because if all hell breaks loose, expect all your dirty laundry to be posted on somebody’s wall (could be on yours, the one of your better half or the wall of the third party) and then for comments to trickle down afterwards. The last thing you want after getting caught is to have to explain yourself to a group of people that actually have no business knowing what goes on in your life behind closed doors.
Article XI: Pictures
The pictures you put up on the site have to be yours. Although it might be cute to have baby pictures of you as well as adolescent ones, it’s crucial that you have current pictures as well. By current, I mean pictures of you that were taken maximum three months ago. Anything older than that can be misleading and could potentially cause an awkward situation if you meet someone in person off of Facebook.
Special provision: Avoid pictures that could be interpreted as sexual or over the top sexy. Granted, this is fine if you can deal with the backlash that comes along with it, but if not stay away from it. Not everyone can deal with some perverted comments about the way they look. In addition, you might have family members (brothers, sisters, mother, father, cousins, etc…) that also view the pictures. Imagine having to explain why you had a picture of you in nothing but a thong on at the next family cookout.
In conclusion, follow the Facebook Code of Conduct in order to avoid pissing people off. Give it a try and let me know how things work out for you. Feel as though anything is missing in the Code? Feel free to drop me a line Shyne@NBAShouts.com or on Twitter.