For women that have spent an inordinate amount time going on
dates with so called losers, cheapskates, cheaters, liars and scumbags; meeting
a respectable fellow can in fact become a huge and yet incredibly pleasant
surprise.
A man that opens doors, says please, asks for the woman’s
input and makes nice gestures that leave one with the impression that his
mother occupied a huge place in his life can make a woman happy and yet weak at
the same time after a few dates.
Forget potential, this man might just be what she is looking
for.
He doesn’t have an issue with picking up the check and can
actually hold a decent conversation that doesn’t revolve around sex. In some
circles, women refer to this dude as the jackpot.
This man creates problems though.
Because he is in the eyes of the woman that’s dating him so
charming, charismatic, smooth and nice, he occasionally creates a bit of
insecurity for the woman involved.
True story.
She starts subtly trying to see who he’s sending out text messages
to, checks out who he messages on Twitter, who comments on his photos or
updates on Facebook and what type of bond he has with these people and the
like. Eventually a little hint of jealousy takes over as she starts to question
his actions and whereabouts regardless of the fact that they aren’t actually
involved in an exclusive relationship.
This, ladies and gentlemen, often earns the label of crazy
from the male species. Indeed, men usually drop the ever popular man bitches be trippin’ in these types
of circumstances.
But in reality, the truth is a little more complicated than
that.
Men know it, but aren’t always willing to acknowledge it.
See, men too go through these circumstances on occasion; and
it perplexes them just as much as it does women.
Because the male gender spends a lot of time courting the
same type of women they’ve been accustomed to for most of their lives, should
it find a mate that’s much more exceptional than the others, well we want to
keep her to ourselves.
A dude might begin to ponder about her beauty, smarts, sense
of humor and common interests as well as her hobbies or knowledge that he might
learn from her, which in turn make her amazing.
All of a sudden, men betray their typical behaviors and try
to lock the woman down because she just seems to be good to be true. As this
goes on though, the crazy
characteristics occasionally emerge from dudes as well.
They want to know who is calling, who is sending out text
messages, why she’s taking so long to reply and why she can’t make anymore free
time for you despite spending a vast majority of it with you already.
The insecurity pops up because we feel threatened…
Just like women do.
But of course, no man would willingly admit to this, because
it’s perceived to be a sign of weakness. But in fact, those that go on dates
and finally find someone worth their attention can indeed feel weak. This
incredible person will surely register on someone else’s radar, hence ensuring
that we are their only viable candidate is the surest way to go, or so we might
think.
Jealousy and insecurity be damned, it’s about protecting our
assets and interests.
Men and women share this trait, but it seems that many are unaware
of it. Both sexes can in fact get lonely, and should they find someone that
could potentially change that feeling, they may in fact unknowingly sabotage
their chances with them by essentially trying too hard to be with that someone.
These are just some of the intricacies of dating that one
must be aware of when involved in the chase. Perception isn’t always reality;
sometimes we just don’t realize how much we mean to people…
And perhaps that’s the bigger problem.
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