Scattered Thoughts

I know it’s been a while peeps, but I am back. The opinions, the ideas, the off the top notions and the crazy answers. Welcome to my Scattered Thoughts…..

NFL: A Colts fan’s Super Bowl thoughts
I said it last night, and I’ll say it today: the New Orleans Saints were the better team on Sunday and deserved the win. With that said, let’s look at a few key points of the game from the Colts perspective and from the Saints perspective.

Saints perspective (winners circle)
The New Orleans Saints kept switching up their defense and giving Peyton Manning different looks. They never let him get comfortable but they were smart with their play calling. They blitzed, played coverage and blitzed again. Manning did his best to counter but in the end the film study for the Saints paid off.

In addition, the Saints aggressive play calling dictated the tempo of the game. By the end of the first quarter, I told my cousin Philly that Sean Payton would go for the onside kick to start the second half. I’m actually surprised no one else saw it coming considering that New Orleans never backed off or took their foot off the gas pedal. Part of the reason that the Saints went for the onside  is that….

By the end of the second quarter, Brees had figured out the Colts. Sean Payton’s play calling led to the Indy linebackers and corners getting confused in coverage and giving big openings in the middle of the field. Brees was not going to get a big play down the field, but he could get anything he wanted within  about 15 yards. I didn’t hear many people mention this but the Saints offensive line did a tremendous job on the Colts rushers. All week we heard about Robert Mathis and Raheem Brock; but the only time we heard their names during the whole Super Bowl was during the player introductions.

One last note from the Saints perspective: put them in Canton right now. On their way to a Super Bowl victory, they defeated Kurt Warner, Brett Favre and Peyton Manning.

Colts perspective (loser’s circle)
The Indianapolis Colts did a decent job of putting some pressure on Drew Brees in the first half thanks in large part to Dwight Freeney. Once it became apparent in the second half that he was going at half speed, the Colts should have adjusted their game plan. Indianapolis was instead content with playing coverage and watching Drew Brees pick them apart.  Here are my three biggest observations from the game:
1.    At least the Colts went 16-0! Oh wait….Not going for 16-0 didn’t have any outcome on the game whatsoever. However, the conservative approach that Indy took in this game is the same approach they took with the 16-0 season. They looked at the probabilities and figured that playing things safe was the best way to go. It worked during the regular season but failed in the biggest game of the season. The Colts watched the Super Bowl while the Saints dictated the terms of the Super Bowl from the second quarter to the end of the game.
2.    4th & 2 had an impact on this game: Indy happily played coverage defense against Tom Brady and got shredded. The Colts won the game but football people paid attention to that game. Of all the teams the Colts played after that game, only one of them had a quarterback that could flawlessly execute that type of game plan: the New Orleans Saints.
3.    Some people (and I’m one of them) will argue that the loss hurts Peyton Manning’s legacy. He has four MVP trophies but only one Super Bowl victory. It’s a sad fact to ponder about as a Colts fan but that’s just how it is in sports. You win some, you lose some. The book is not yet closed on Peyton Manning’s legacy but it won’t matter until next season. Know why? Because the Saints were just that much better…..I’m getting ready to fire u my Madden and go 19-0. See you next NFL season peeps.

Venus vs. Mars

Male ego
Men in general have this constant need for attention. However, once we get the required attention we seek we no longer want that attention; instead we want the attention of someone different. Some guys will roll their eyes and say that I'm not talking about them. But think it through, why is it that you keep trying to hook up with a certain lady and then after getting the goods; you no longer want to hear about her? Although she might have satisfied for physical needs, she also quenched your thirst for attention. Basically, she catered to your ego. Once that's done, you keep her on the side and start listening to Jay-Z and Swizz Beats' On To The Next One. Until she does something you didn't expect....

She gets herself a boy toy, boyfriend or just stops calling. Once she does that, the script gets flipped. The man needs to get that attention again. We do it because we love the attention; but also because there's nothing quite like the thrill of the chase. Give a man a glimpse of hope, and he'll try to walk on water to get to you. Know why? Because that's just the male ego....I've given you gold; use it wisely ladies.

Picks Challenge
Ladies and gentlemen, please make some noise for Bernadette. She is the winner of the NFL Playoffs Picks Challenge. She won the playoff round with a 9-2 record. Give her some love! 

Throwback jersey
Last night, Vince Carter  went nuts in Orlando against the New Orleans Hornets. I quickly baptised him Mitchell & Ness  because he played like he had his old Toronto Raptors or New Jersey Nets jersey on. Vince Carter went for 48 points, seven rebounds and two assists. What a night…A throwback night.

The Texting Guidelines
About a year ago, I wrote the Booty Call Guidelines and put in there a section pertaining to the frequency of text messages a man and woman can exchange depending on the level of the booty call. Recently, one of my male friends asked me to come up with the text messaging guidelines based on the relationship you have with a woman. What are the types of relationships? Glad you asked, here they are: 
- Casual friend that might potentially develop into more
-Booty call
-Person on the side
-Person that's about to get dropped
-Serious relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancé, husband/wife) 

Let's be clear though, there are two different sets of guidelines:
I. Blackberry
II. Every other phone 

Now that we've established the different types of relationships, what is the permissible amount of texts depending on the person's status? Let's break it down for Blackberry users.

I. Blackberry to Blackberry
a. Serious relationship
Time at which first message can be sent: Any
Time at which last message can be sent: Any

This one is like a monthly unlimited texting plan. In a serious relationship, the texts can come at any time in the day and at any variety. However, you cannot mention anything in the text that might lead to a fight; especially if one of the people involved is at work or school.

b. Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Time at which first message can be sent: 07:00 am
Time at which last message can be sent: 04:00 am

This one is a fairly new relationship. The last thing you want to do is spend the day on Blackberry Messenger (BBM) asking your new partner what it is that they are doing at every moment. Consequently you may send the first message at 7:00 am to say good morning, and the last message can go up to  4:00 am, to say good night after the club. Anything outside these times could seriously crash the relationship as time passes by. I recommend a quick BBM chat in the morning to see how both of are you doing and then a quick something during lunch. Anything in excess of that eventually leads to the guy getting tired of constantly replying to messages; while the other ends up saying: "You used to message me all the time, and now you stopped. It's either you don't love me or there's someone else." Don't allow this to be you.

c. Person that's about to get dropped
Time at which first message can be sent: 7:00 pm
Time at which last message can be sent: 7:30 pm

If the dude you’re seeing/dating is becoming more and more distant, it might be a sign that he is contemplating the idea of dropping you. Seeking that person’s attention on BBM is probably not the best of ideas. I suggest that send no more than 7 messages in the day. Example:
Unknown: Hey how are you? (1)
Shyne: Good, what about you?
Unknown: I’m good too. Listen, about that thing I said, forget it. I was just scared that you were going to dump me.(2)
Shyne: Hmmmm.
Unknown: Once again, sorry. So listen, is there any way I can make it up to you? (3)
Shyne: I’m not sure. I might have to think about that one.
Unknown: Well you let me know. I’d like to see you sometime if that’s possible. (4)
Shyne: Perhaps that can be arranged. As you know though, I ‘m at work right now and I have basketball this weekend, so I’ll get back to you so when can hook up at a time that’s convenient for both of us.
Unknown: Cool. Just give me a shout. Have a nice evening. (5)
Shyne: Thanks, you too.
Unknown: By the way, thanks again for helping me. (6)
Shyne: Don’t mention it, we’re good.
Unknown: OK, peace. (7)
Shyne: 1.

See that? Crisis averted. Anything more is added to that conversation, the  Unknown person ends up becoming a magic trick.. By the way, that was completely fictional.

d. Person on the side
Time at which first message can be sent: 1:00 pm
Time at which last message can be sent: 9:00 pm

You might not want to hear it, but there are some cheaters out there. I’m not saying whether it’s right or wrong, however regardless of what your opinion on the matter is, there are rules to follow. If you’re the person on the side, you can only send the involved party a BBM message after they message you first. If you send them the message first and the wrong person gets a hold of it, you probably created a fight; but you also just lost the opportunity to hook up with the said involved party. By the way, pictures must never be sent unless agreed upon in advance.

e. Booty Call
I already covered this in the Booty Call Guidelines, but here’s a quick refresher.

Franchise Player: Unlimited texting is permissible with your FP.

Superstar: The Superstar is quite particular because he tends to have a ton of options (you know from being a bit of a man whore); therefore it might be a little tougher to grab his attention because his phone is like a 1-800 hotline. So in his case, you may send him 10 to 12 texts on any given day; but check the frequency at which he replies. It's one thing if he's at work, but if not at work and he replies to you after a couple of hours, don't bother him; he's busy.
Role Player: Your role player gets 3 texts in the day. His job is to fill a role ladies, if he can't fill it on that day with 3 texts, don't bother calling him.

Bench Player: Remember ladies, the circumstances in which you met your bench player were shady. You were desperate and he looked good but really he's not attractive and you might be ashamed if seen in public with him. So as a result, your Bench Player is eligible for 2 texts in the day and call back

Injured Reserve: The IR is your last resort. So he gets a text during the week and is obligated to call you back one hour after receiving it

f. Friend
Time at which first message can be sent: 09:00 am
Time at which last message can be sent: 10:30 pm

Friends don’t have a threshold that they have to respect in terms of messaging on BBM. Since everything is strictly innocent and on a friendly tip; you can message each other as much as you want and discuss just about any and every topic. If both of the people are single, then there is no time limit. However, if one of the people is in a relationship, I suggest you follow the time schedule listed above  or else it might lead to some friction between the couple.

 II. Non Blackberry users (IPhone, LG, Sidekick, etc…)
The rules are a bit different if the phone is not a Blackberry. The reason is simple: with Blackberry messenger; it’s the equivalent of being on MSN, Skype , AOL or Yahoo Messenger. Basically the conversations flow better, you know if the person is writing back to you right now, so you can keep your phone in hand and wait for the message and plus the fact that you might be communicating with others contacts on BBM make it rather easy for you to remain on your Blackberry to converse. 

In the case of other phones, because you are waiting for the person to text you back and you’re not ultimately sure if they are going to text you back at that very instant, you end up invariably putting your phone away in your pocket or purse after sending a text. So the texting game is different. If you’re not convinced, let me put it this way: porn is porn. But professional porn is far different than amateur porn. The lighting, the action, the direction of the scene and the money shot are all a bit more glamorized in pro porn. Different standards means different guidelines..

a. Serious relationship
Time at which first message can be sent: Any
Time at which last message can be sent: Any

Go back to Article I-1a. Same principle as Blackberry applies here.

b. Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Time at which first message can be sent: 07:00 am
Time at which last message can be sent: 04:00 am

There isn’t a limit on the amount of texts that can be sent between both parties; however I would encourage the idea of not going overboard. For instance, anything in excess of 40 text messages in a new relationship might be pushing it. One of the people involved will be annoyed at having to constantly reply to the other.

c. Person that's about to get dropped
Time at which first message can be sent: 7:00 pm
Time at which last message can be sent: 7:15 pm

The limit here is five text messages. Anything additional might just set off a chain of events of cataclysmic proportions. If a man is on the brink of getting rid of you, he can use any possible reason to drop you. So if you want to get rid of him, just call him up and put an end to things. If you still have some hope, have a text conversation with him. Ask him things that require a short answer. If by his fourth text he’s still unresponsive, your fifth text should read: “OK cool, well you have a great night and we’ll talk soon.” If he’s on the brink of dropping you, you being needy is only going to speed things up (unless he likes that sort of thing).

d. Person on the side
Time at which first message can be sent: 1:00 pm
Time at which last message can be sent: 5:00 pm

Same principle as the BBM messaging. You are required to wait for him to text you first; however if you are brave enough to text him before he texts you, it has to be done during the middle of the way and during the week. The reason being is that you might catch him at school, work or possibly barber shop. But once again, wait for him to get at you.           

e. Booty Call
Review booty call guidelines from Blackberry section.

f. Friend (same as BBM)
Time at which first message can be sent: 10:00 am
Time at which last message can be sent: 10:30 pm

Friends don’t have a threshold that they have to respect in terms of messaging on text messaging. Since everything is strictly innocent and on a friendly tip; you can message each other as much as you want and discuss just about any and every topic. If both of the people are single, then there is no time limit. However, if one of the people is in a relationship, I suggest you follow the time schedule listed above or else it might lead to some friction between the couple.

Interracial Dating
About  four months ago, I asked the question Why Do Black Men Like White Women. Click here if you wish to read it. Here are some of the reactions I got.

Tru4life: "However, if a Caucasian woman offered the same type of attitude, I was completely fine with it. " Why the double standard Shyne? I’m a black woman and have plenty of easy going, educated and delightful black woman as friends, including myself. On the other hand I've met defensive, negative and arrogant women from all nationalities and most of them (contrary to popular belief) were Caucasians in various environments. I would like to see you explain away my experience w/rude women in general especially white ones. Or will you just try to continue justify your preference? I personally love everyone in judge people/women by the content of their character and NOT the Color of their skin. I’m not against interracial dating, you like who you like. Just don’t go disrespecting a race of woman because of your preference based on a handful of experiences.

Rebuttal: Which is exactly what I said in the last paragraph tru4life: "My explanation might seem overly simplistic and some feel that I am using it as a cop out, but it’s actually as simple as that for a lot of men. That being said, it’s important that men out there understand that a woman’s race does not determine whether she will be forthcoming or not. Instead, take the time to see what she has to offer instead of profiling her. Hopefully those of you that read this might actually see yourselves in this and take the necessary steps to avoid falling into the perception/assumption game".
Just because my lack of experience at the time once made me ignorant, does not mean that I still am. I do not judge based on race, color or creed; I have dated women with various backgrounds. The mere point I was trying to illustrate (which was lost on several people by the way) was the origin of the apprehension that some black men may have towards black women. My goal was not to justify, rather inform. If you disagree,that's fine and I respect your opinion.

Tzaddik21: ShyneIV, I have had the same experiences with thug like men. I remember this thug asked me for my number, and when he heard me speak, he was like I talk like a white girl. Where I'm at, ghetto attitudes on a black woman is ideal for the men in my community; that attitude is what they are attracted to. I see black men dating white women who mimic the ghetto character of the black women. I think black me date white women because the media says that their skin color and hair texture is the definition of beauty. Black men constantly lie about why they date outside the race in order to not be seen as a sell out. you said a white woman with the same attitude would be ok for you. I know why, because she is white. I remember when I was little, I dreamed of marrying a white man. When I watched my cartoons, white men where the gentlemen. When I watched the sitcoms and movies and t.v. commercials, the white men where always the hero's, the smart ones, the attractive one's, the successful one's. The media does a good job selling to us the messages they want us to believe

Rebuttal: Thanks for your answer Tzaddik. Real insightful; a lot of our thoughts and ideologies at times come from how things are portrayed in the media. I think of the movie Malcolm X, in which white is depicted as being good and almighty in the dictionary but black is meant to be evil, disgraceful and dirty. Great point, Thanks!

THE TRUTH|READ ME I DARE YOU: (I apologize in advance half of this sounds intelligent the other half is a rant, plz read one sentence at a time slowly)
As black people we complain when people are prejudice against us, how do you expect respect from others races when you cant respect your own? I don’t blame you for your views but I encourage you to educate yourself on “color complexes” and really take some time to reflect on your race, maybe the women in your FAMILY are loud, and make fun of you but that’s unfortunate. And notice I said FAMILY if you are sitting there saying “no my family is pretty normal” then you have just contradicted yourself. Don’t make excuses for dating other races, just be a man and say “I like what I like“, but don’t knock black women while your at it (Black women are not mad because your dating white women we are mad because you are attacking our character). TRUTH! Cause ask yourself this if black women are loud(stereotype), rude(stereotype), what about the stereotypes of a black male (criminal, lazy, cheater, uneducated) I‘m a black female and I have defiantly come across many black males who fit the stereotypes, to name a few are those true about you? If yes, why complain about loudness? If not then you are doing to the black females, what I have just characterized you as. And by the way I’m Born in Montreal and Ottawa half Haitian, So don’t disrespect me my family who go work their ass off are stand up, well educated citizens with your ignorant point of view. Sorry thing aint working out for you. Stop saying all this cliché shit I see on the internet everyday to sound impressive, go read, watch a movie learn about your culture, learn about slavery, mental slavery, learn about why we have ghettos full of black people, learn about why we have so many broken marriages, single mothers ,color complexes, learn why a dark skinned black man would only date a lighter skinned women(when he himself is dark), If you read enough on these subjects you might realize the true reason you prefer white women (watch Malcolm X). I hear more of this stuff from black men than anyone else. Black men need to step it up start being fathers, “womanizers”, and hustlers and we have statistics to prove that black men lead in those areas, what statistic says black women are loudest? Latina women are loud (how do I know Cuban side of me) but black men NEVER talk shit about them, my white friends from MTL and Ottawa loud as well, dance the same, actually if dance even more scandalous if you’ve been to a reggae party you’ll know what im talking about . Black men need to step it up and stop blaming everyone for their failures (white men, black women, society). “Getthefuckouttaherewitdatbullshit”. Black women put up with too much of this shit we are too loyal to our black men. That girl making fun of you didn’t change your life just say you like white women , there is nothing wrong with that, Shout out to all the fly white girls, just don’t be phoney about it. Do you think white girls go around saying , when I was 12 a white guy made fun of me so I only date black men. NO!!!!!!!!! they just say “I love black men”. You probably like them because that’s all that’s around you, as you said the majority of people around you were white, so maybe you learn to identify with white people more. I have more to say but this is too long as is ----I should write a book on this-

I get the spirit of what you’re trying to say but you’re missing the point of what I wrote. I don’t make excuses or say that black women are bad for this or that reason. What I’m trying to convey is that I once shied away from them because of my negative experience at an early age. In addition, it seems you failed to notice the part where I specifically say that: “it’s important that men out there understand that a woman’s race does not determine whether she will be forthcoming or not. Instead, take the time to see what she has to offer instead of profiling her. Hopefully those of you that read this might actually see yourselves in this and take the necessary steps to avoid falling into the perception/assumption game.” It’s one thing for you to attack me and call me ignorant, but at least get your facts straight and read everything for what it is.
No I'm not knocking black women, I'm simply stating how I got to where I am today. Quick FYI, you don't know me, nor do you know who I have dated I my life (blacks, whites, latinas, etc..) nor do you know what I have learned or what my level of education is. Telling me to go read a book or watch Malcolm X is actually your way of stereotyping me as the black men you listed in your comment. Funny how things come full circle huh?
My opinions and life experiences are just that, mine. You might not agree with them, but that's your prerogative. Calling me ignorant based on my teenage life experience is jumping the gun considering you have no idea what my stance on the issue is at the present time. It might have made more sense to actually ask me what how my opinion differs today as opposed to my adolescent years on the stereotypes that black women face. I'm not some uneducated individual just posting things on the Internet as banter (or I would like to think not, but apparently that's up for debate); my purpose was merely to inform people where the stereotype stems from. At no point do I make any excuses or say that's it's right. If presenting a list of facts and then detailing my reactions to them is ignorant; well then guilty as charged.

Sley’s gives his Scattered Thoughts as well….
I asked my friend Sley to contribute to the Scattered Thoughts, and this is what he came up with…

There's an old saying that says:

"Ask and you shall receive..." I got a text from Blog boy aka Shyne-o-man, saying brother Sley I need some inspiration for my usual quirky and entertaining segment called "Scattered Thoughts". 1st response, was like whoa!!!! I 'm gonna get a freakin' shout out and I'll be good! Or try to outdo the webmaster. Well hell! here it goes Mr.S...!

1st and foremost, let's have a little moment for Haiti, aka la Perle des
Antilles......! Donate and do something meaningful! Our prayers and
thoughts go to our brothers and sisters in Hispanola!

I also wanna say big up to DVD for going there and helping
out his fellow man. Heard Young Yellow man got into accident on Facebook. Be safe out there D and bring me back a Reserve owe me Fool!

Number 2- Want to send some positive vibes to Jogral aka GIJOE, who went commando and decided spur of the moment to go via D.R trek a bus to cross to Haiti. Heard he bounced with a backpack, visa and said Hasta La Vista Baby! Again be safe out there soldier and come home safe brethren.

Now, back to the original business. Since I had time to kill last night, I
log on to an old system called Windows Live Messenger (MSN) and I fell upon an old acquaintance. Girly girl was a loud redbone (light skin black woman) who was infatuated with getting inked (tattoo). She showed me some sick artwork done on both sleeves. Now, I'm also inked but not like that. Don't know if I could do a full sleeve. I already have my shoulder down to the elbow done with a I love you mom sign...sike (nice portrait and a meaningful phrase said by my momma!!!). Which leads me to my question. How do you feel about a woman with mad tattoo's?

My honest opinion, last fall in MIA yayo, a redbone came up to me to holla and spit and she was tatted with a sick jasmine flower on her torso
(Chest). I couldn't hate on the artistry, plus shorty had a nice rack at
bat too, but I just couldn't see myself with a chick who got more lines
that Google maps. But as a one time fling why not splash some baby oil and rub the human canvas and work it big time..


Feel free to interject....

Marcie’s opinion
As a female who is pretty heavily tattooed (full chest piece, half sleeve, full calf piece & numerous others) and has no plan on stopping anytime soon I felt the need to respond to this.

Id like to first say I’m not upset, mad, or offended. There are a few times of men that if I wasn’t happily married, I’d give them a roll in the hay & then bounce them out the door. Maybe they aren’t relationship material in my eyes, or maybe they aren’t the type you can comfortably bring home to your parents, whatever the reason, I get it, that is where a tattooed woman ranks for you.

On the other side of that, I have not become accustomed to the looks & oogles I get mostly from overweight white soccer moms, 30-45 yrs old., who just assume the mother with tattoos MUST be a bad one. It’s funny what you observe when you sit back & just peep. The last time I did such a thing, I noticed the school mother who had been giving me the dirty looks 5 yr old daughter was the one running after the boys trying to kiss them, while my 5 year old was on the slide. Somebody should spend less time judging & more time teaching their future whore morals. The lesson, don’t judge a person on appearance, color, clothes, hair, etc.

What does irritate me is that tattoos have become SO trendy now. Back in the Sailor Jerry days tattoos were for, well, sailors & other rebels. 10 years ago, most people would get a few small tattoos that could be hidden well, and that was that. Now you have any 18 year old skank feeling gangster for 1 day and she goes out & gets a huge piece blasted on the side of her neck. So sad. Nothing is fun when its cliché. Now you're the outcast if you DONT have tattoos, at least if you're between 18-25 & out here on the West Coast of the US.

I'll end it all with this: "A body is like a house, its only a matter of time before you get bored with the blandness & want to redecorate."

Sley’s Mp3 rotation:

 I wanna Rock - Big Snoop Dogg
 Mercy me (Ecology) - Marvin Gaye
 What's going on - Marvin Gaye
 Number one - R.Kelly feat. Keri Hilson,
 Back by Popular Demand - Clipse feat. Cam'Ron
 Stapleton Sex -Ghostface Killah
 Money to Blow - Baby feat. Lil' Wayne & Drake
 Bricks - Raekwon feat. Ghostface Killah & Cappadonna
 Pyrex Vision - Raekwon
 Do you feel me - Anthony Hamilton
 Back stabbers - O'Jays
 On to the next one - Jay-Z feat. Swizz Beats
 Redemption Song - Bob Marley
 She's Royal - Taurus Riley
 Say Ah! - Trey Songz
 That new Jay Electronica joint. Don't remember the title though
 My old School goodie: Mass Appeal - Gang Starr

ShynePhone Music Rotation

Cut You Loose – Slaughterhouse
Inseperable Remix – Mariah Carey ft Trey Songz
I Wanna Rock – Snoop Dogg
Women Lie, Men Lie – Yo Gotti ft Lil’ Wayne
Keep Getting On – Marvin Gaye
Sunshine - Jay-Z 
Who Got Bodied - Royce Da 5'9
You Ain't A Killer - Big Pun
Hustlers Go Crazy - Joe Budden
100% - Big Pun

Questions? Feedback? Feel free to leave a comment in the comments section here or drop me a line at


drewbreezzy said...

No go. Stupid girl with nonsense no sense not since she wants a relationship honest-ly all I want is a hook up so she calls I hang up time to break this thing up.

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